Self care is something that I struggled with for years, since my teens. Self care is taking care of yourself first then everyone else. Taking care of your body is important, but also your mind and spirit is super important. When you are able to take care of yourself you are then able to take care of everyone else. There was a time when I lived to making everyone else happy except for me (sigh) we all I know have been through that stage. I just didn’t want to disappoint anyone so I will always say YES to people and NO to myself. That was a big no no because it made my depression worst. But I felt if I helped everyone no one would be mad at me. Oh gosh I was so young and so naive. Obviously that won’t change anything.
It wasn’t until i had a major anxiety attack on my 23rd birthday and had to go to the hospital that I had a major wake up call. From that time (that was 6 yeas ago) I began the healing process which began with therapy and it was there I learned about self care. I began doing meditation, you should be meditating at least 20 minutes a day. I had to start loving my body as well as my soul which by the way I need to change a whole lot because I was a very angry person. I started reading more books and jogging. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle helped me in the healing process , jogging helped me as well connecting with nature.
found myself yet again having to relearned self care. As woman, we want to do it all and then we forget about ourselves. In my field , I started from the bottom and made my way up. as I was up I forgot about me and I just worked worked and worked. I was very negative, stress, didn’t sleep much. I started experiencing anxiety attacks once again. I decided to leave, start over in my field and rediscover myself . I was lost like I sold my soul and I did forget about me. i put myself in that position because I was being greedy and selfish with myself. You can reach a certain level but if you not happy is not worth it , all the money in the world does not compete with my self care.
Self care is taking care of your mind. Having a spiritual cleanse. Knowing yourself , knowing your worth. Is important to take care of your body just as is important to take care of the mind . If you are feeling lost, read books, seek therapy (those actually worked) , spent some time alone, do something you enjoy doing. Also this is very important we all want to help everyone and that’s great but if you finding yourself saying yes to someone but you saying no to yourself , that’s a sign that you are not taking care of yourself.